You don’t get what you want, you get what you need

321go • June 27, 2023

This is famously from Tony Robbins who is a world renowned motivational speaker who has millions who follow him including celebrities that look up to him for personal development topics.  One of the things that stuck out to me is when he said, “We don’t get what we want, we get what we have to have.”  It’s so true though.  Life habits are about what we decide to prioritize.  Whether that’s spending time with family,  working long hours to achieve financial freedom, and or exercising on a regular basis to get healthier.  

We go to work to earn an income because we need to provide for ourselves and our families.

We go to the grocery store every week because we need food and water to live.

We make time for our life partners because we need to nurture our relationships with those we love.

It’s all about what we decide to prioritize that actually happens.  Unfortunately, health for a lot of us is put on the back burner for a multitude of reasons. “I’m too busy”, “I can’t afford it”, “now isn’t the right time”, and other reasons.  Ultimately, it’s because in those moments they don’t feel it is needed to make time for their health.

At the same time I’m sure you all have heard people say:

I’m probably missing some but like I’ve already talked about, wants are a different category then needs.

Wants = Would be nice to have, not necessary though.

Needs = I don’t have a choice, I need this.

It’s important to understand the differences especially if you are actually looking to accomplish any goal honestly.  If you just want something, on days that you are busy or don’t have the bandwidth to do what’s necessary, you’ll let yourself slip.  If you need something, you will make it work in my schedule regardless of how you feel.  It becomes a non-negotiable which will lead to success.

If you are having trouble navigating through your health whether its because of work, family matters, or any other obstacle, I’d love to chat with you to help get you on track!

Dedicated to your Success,
 Coach Evan

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